Leading Holistically and Living Generously
I have a holistic need to work and to have huge ties of love in my life.
I can’t imagine eschewing one for the other. – Meryl Streep
I want it all. No need to apologize. I refuse to believe that compromise is the only way to claim success in this life. We tend to talk ourselves out of our best possible futures because we’re afraid of the work involved in having it all. I think it’s the other way around. If we’re always compromising, we’re always neglecting a facet of our lives. That’s a recipe for burnout.
I’ve seen many talented people shrivel and die in business because they never learned how to live and lead in a holistic way. I never want to be that person. So, I have three loves in my life: Family/Friends, the Work, and the reflection I see in the mirror every morning. While these three loves are never in perfect harmonic balance, I recognize that they all need my attention and care.
I am fitness fanatic. Weights, hockey, hiking… All of it. I spend ample time caring for my body because I realize that I do not get the time back. When my body is agile and strong, I am a more effective leader, a more capable partner, and a more attentive parent. As for care of my mind, I am constantly trying to learn something new and stretch what I already know. It’s Neuropsychology 101, friends. Brain elasticity leads to enhanced performance in all facets of life and leadership. If you are inattentive to your body, you’re not living in a holistic way.
Volunteerism and mentoring are part of my story also. We can all point to the people in our professional and personal circles who are always in our corner. I recognize that some great people gave me some important nudges along the way; others picked me up and tended to my wounds when I got the crap beat out of me. That’s why I’m committed to paying it forward. I see myself as a mentor to young executives who strive to find their voice and use it. I also provide visional leadership to nonprofits that work directly with children. My childhood wasn’t full of puppy dogs and picket fences; I’ll do my part to ensure that today’s kids have the best launch possible.